Ekhulelwe 16. Ngubani na ityala noko ukwenza ntoni?

Mhlawumbi, kanye ibinzana 'ekhulelwe 16 "sele sibonisa, ukuba musani ukoyika, okanye ubuncinane ukuziva aqhelekileyo - ethile sivile ngawo. Ewe, oko malunga nengxaki okuqinileyo nje emonela- eendaba zonke iintlobo. Ngamanye amazwi, ibizwa ngokuba ukukhulelwa kolutsha, kusasa, njalo-njalo. Kodwa kungakhathaliseki indlela sikubiza lo mhlola, kodwa akungeyiphuculi imeko, yeha, ayitshintshi kuba ngcono.

Mhlawumbi, Kakade ke, kwangoko kakhulu ukukhalisa isivusi, njengokuba Pregnant kwi-16, yaye ngakumbi ke, ukuba 15-14 - ngaphandle kunokuba umthetho, kodwa, njengoko iingcali zithi, inani labo uyakhula. Ngokuthe ngcembe, kodwa, yeha, loo sele umthetho. omama abaselula, iminyaka koomama lifinyele.

Kufuneka kukhunjulwe ukuba intombazana, kodwa phantse intombazane eneminyaka eli-16 ubudala, ukukhulelwa, Lo - hayi nje kuphela ngenxa neentlobano engakhuselekanga. No. Izizathu enzulu kakhulu kwaye buhlungu kakhulu.

Cinga ezona ziphambili. Okokuqala, ukukhulelwa kunokwenzeka kwiintsapho apho ubabalo ekhethekileyo landa ilungelo. It smothers kwaye uthintele ubomi. ndawo kule ukulondolozwa ngabazali kwaye ayiyi kusinda. Konke kubonakala kuhle: intombazana wondla, izicathulo kwaye kuhlala ekulungeni, ningaqiqi ibe omdala kwaye musa ukuthetha kwi ngokulinganayo, ngokusuka entliziyweni. Bonke nale ngcamango - thina abazali bazi ngcono. Ngoko ke ufumana kwaye ukuba kunjalo: ekhulelwe 16, ngathi kukho isikhalo uncedo, njengobungqina ekubeni unyango kukothuka kuba befuna ukuva intombi yabazali. Kodwa oku sizathu kuphela, kodwa "omnye 'kuphela.

ukukhulelwa kwangethuba inokwenzeka nje ngenxa yokungabikho kolwazi oluthembekileyo kule elivisayo. Kwakhona, ekubetheni ukuba abazali. Musa ukuchaza phi iintsana evela, akwandixelela malunga nocwangciso-ntsapho, hayi bafundiswe ukuba bafune kuqala ukuya ukukhula zentlalo nezengqondo, yaye kuphela emva koko uthabathe uxanduva kwaye angene ubuhlobo. Ezi notorious "hayi" zibheke ekupheleni ukuze oko sinako: "Ndineminyaka engama-16 ubudala, mna ndikhulelwe." Kwaye ke iqala iinyembezi, Iingcikivo kunye imizamo yokuzibulala. Awu, ukukhulelwa - into ntshikilelo lowukulu ngopfu, nkqu nabazali abaqeqeshiweyo, noko ukuthetha, xa Umntwana ngathi ubethwe evela blue? Kwaye kulo mzekelo, intombazana sifuna inkxaso ngakumbi kunanini na ngaphambili.

Ziziphi ezinye izizathu njengoko nokukhulelwa yokuqala? Kwaye zilula kwaye ngexesha elifanayo ezoyikekayo. Kungaba udlwengulo. Ewe, siphila phakathi koluntu apho abasetyhini, ingakumbi ulutsha, na into umnqweno nodlame. Phantse nasiphi na isixeko Russian simi (okanye mandithi, musa) kuphuma emva kweeyure 21-22, njengoko amathuba okuba ophangiweyo, badlwengulwe, izilima ikhule kakhulu. Yeha ke, iingcali apha ezi zinto zingumqondiso akukho okulungileyo kuthi. Ulwaphulo-mthetho luya lusiba nochatha kwaye akakwazi ukuyeka amapolisa, nasemva kokuba renames vociferous guqula.

Kodwa kwakhona, isizathu kufuneka kucelwa ngabazali - kutheni intombi ngelo xesha ngaphandle kwendlu ngabazali bakhe? Mhlawumbi kulula ukuba kude nekhaya, abalekela abahlobo okanye ukuzihlalela macala esitratweni kunokuba ngaphantsi kophahla efanayo kunye nabazali babo? Kakade ke, udlwengulo kunokwenzeka ekhaya, sukube ntoni xa indlu ngokwayo ukufikelela abantu notyekelo mthetho, Kakade ke, kunye kwemvume abadala.

Ngoko ke, yintoni esinayo kule meko? Ewe, isiphetho ezicacileyo. Ukuba intombi yakho ekhulelwe-16 okanye ekuqaleni, nayo leyo kwenzeka rhoqo, zonke imitya, kunjalo, basondela abazali. Nokufundisa, kwaye kufuneka abe noburhalarhume ngokwakho. Ngenxa ukudibana nomntwana, ngelishwa, iye yalahleka. Okanye kwakungenjalo.

Kodwa ke wamitha akuthethi ukuba yonke into igqithile ezilahlekileyo. Ngapha koko, ubomi nangoku iyaqhubeka. Ukuba kubonwe iintsimbi kuqala abazali, koko wabamba uthomalaliso kukothuka, njengoko kuchaziwe apha ngasentla.

Khangela umfowunelwa kunye nomntwana, musa wolahlekelwa nguwo; umdla ngaphezu ubomi umntwana wakho, kodwa kungekhona kwindawo yolawulo kunye nomgcini, kwaye ngokwengqiqo umhlobo nozilingana.