Abantwana Ezinzima isizathu sokuba ezinjalo, nendlela ukufundisa kakuhle?

Amaxesha amaninzi oomama abaselula isikhalazo ukwazi ukuba ukufumana ulwimi olufanayo kunye nomntwana. Kulo mzekelo, bonke kuthelekiswa netakane lebhokhwe sele ikhule kwiimvuthuluka nje kuzalwa ndiwasongele omama bangamaziyo amaxhala neengxaki ngoxolo ukukhulisa abantwana babo. Noko ke, uthelekiso enjalo osisiyatha, kuba kwiminyaka ethile lubonakala imikhwa yabo, ngoko kufuneka ufunde ukwahlula umsebenzi oqhelekileyo lo mntwana ekuphu "ingxaki." Ngokunxulumene amatakane andwebileyo basoloko besebenzisa ibinzana elithi "abantwana nzima". Oko neze baphulaphule abazali babo, ukuba uzimele kakhulu, ubungozi, neenkani, kodwa musa ukulibala ukuba yinto nje abantwana. Ekubeni imfundo efanelekileyo abantwana babe nokuba abantwana ezinzima kakhulu eziqhelekileyo, cwaka, uthando kunye nothando.

Iingxaki hlobo kuvela amaxesha amaninzi abazali abatsha abasafunda ukukhulisa umntwana wabo wokuqala. Le mpazamo nakancane, kwaye usana sele ziqala ukuba siziphathe kakubi. Kwaye kule meko sinokuthi ukuba ngokuyintloko ityala umzali, hayi umntwana. khumbula Soloko ukuba ulwalamano lwethu kunye nabantwana kunokubangela kuzo ebezintle nezo zingentle. Kungokwemvelo ukuba pipsqueak abasoloko Akuve kuphela ukukhala unina wakhe, kuba kungekudala emva koko, yaye akakukhathalele kuyo. Ngenxa yoko wosana eqhelekileyo ukhula noburhalarhume bonke elivisayo kwixesha elizayo kuya kuba njengendlela yokufundisa abantwana babo. Ngoko ke, abantwana nzima - nto kodwa ngenxa akhuliswe ngokungafanelekanga lwabazali.

Ukuphakamisa ilizwi lakhe, ukuba umntwana wakhe, unina badla ukuthethelela ukuziphatha kwabo isibakala ukuba woyika ukufundisa umntwana ukuziphatha okunjalo. Kwelinye icala, ukoyika ngokwenene kuyaqondakala, kuba xa umntwana akeva noko "hayi", uze zibhuqe, unako baziphathe ngokupheleleyo nangayiphi na indlela ngokukhawuleza kakhulu bakuqhele oko. Nangona kunjalo, le meko mbini, kwaye kufuneka umntu afunde ukubona umgca, xa kunokwenzeka ukuba ukuphakamisa ilizwi umntwana, yaye xa kungcono ukuvumela ukwenza into ayifunayo.

Masenze ngathi ukuba umntwana wakho uyeke ukumamela kwaye wenza kanye oko unqwenela intliziyo yakhe. Okokuqala, kufuneka uqonde ukuba imfundo yabantwana ezinzima - inkqubo onzima, yaye elide ngokwaneleyo, ngoko ke yiba nomonde. Zeziphi izikhundla ezingenabantu ezifanelekileyo kule meko, chaza ngezantsi.

1. Musani ukumalela yonke into. Betha efanayo kunye ukuvalwa esisigxina enrage kuphela umntwana musa umnike inkululeko. Mvumele zama ukuzoba eludongeni - oko kuya kuba lula ukuba ukucima, kodwa ibona ukuba avunyelwe. Kwixesha elizayo, kufuneka nje uchazele umntwana ukuba unako ukuzoba ephepheni kwaye kufuneka kuba uhlambulukile eludongeni. Phinda oku izihlandlo eziliqela ngaphandle bekhwaza, uya kubona iziphumo emva kweeveki ezimbalwa.
2. Musa ukumthethisa konke konke. Yinto ukusebenza ngamandla kakhulu umntwana wakho, yaye kudala eziliqela izakhiwo. Ukuba itakane wenze into engaqhelekanga, kubhetele umxelele ngononophelo ukuba unako ukuyenza loo nto, kunokuba ndiziqhawule i tirade ngumsindo kwi seyure.
3. Xa kungekho tyala musa hit umntwana. Le ndlela kakubi.
4. Musa ukumkhusela yonke into. Amaxesha amaninzi, unina uzama ukukhusela umntwana wakhe evela naziphi na iingxaki. Kunqweneleka ukuba xa umntwana zisencinci kakhulu, kodwa omdala umntwana kufuneka benze ezinye bububhanxa neempazamo. Oku ukuba bafumane amava, nto leyo qiniseka ukuba eze Ukugunda e elizayo kuye. Ukunika umntwana emfutshane eneenkcukacha ukuba isenzo ngasinye, ube esichengeni ukuze ukhule umntu akakwazi ukwenza izigqibo ezizimeleyo.

abantwana nzima ngokukhawuleza kakhulu kwakhona abafundileyo-, ukuba yenziwe ngokuchanekileyo. Vumela umntwana wakho azive inkxalabo yakho (kodwa hayi kakhulu), yaye emva koko bonke baya kuba kakuhle kwaye imiswe.