In-mthetho - uhlobo continuer

UNyana uza kutshata kwaye lazisa umtshakazi wakhe nabazali. Ngaba kuba nemihlali yena ukuthatha namathole entsatsheni, ukuba kuya kubakho ubudlelwane efudumeleyo kunye nobuhlobo nayo, ngathi intsapho lokwenene? Kutheni kwezinye iintsapho kukho umzabalazo ngasonye phakathi umfazi oselula nonina unyana wakhe? Zama ukuqonda.

Kuthetha ukuthini?

Kuba isiqalo kubalulekile ukuphawula ukuba i-mthetho - oko kukuthi, umfazi unyana wakhe. Kodwa kuphela ngokunxulumene kuyise umyeni wakhe. Kodwa unina-in-mthetho yena. Kutheni kukho isiphithiphithi enjalo? Kwaye kutheni kucingwa ukuba i "kwi-mthetho" - oku phantse bafunge igama?

Kukho izimvo ezimbini. Okokuqala, igama elithi "umolokazana" - oku yi-analogu ngqo imbono "kwi-mthetho". Uluvo wesibini umfazi ngenxa ixesha elithile ngoku utshatile kwaye iye ixesha nomntwana.

Ephosakeleyo, ingcamango intsingiselo yamagama yakwenza dissonant bakhe, kunye nokufana ngesandi ilizwi "neentlobano". Kubalulekile ukuqaphela ukuba xa kwabonakala ukuba iwonga lefemeli 'umolokazana noninazala "kubomi bemihla ngemihla, ingqiqo yayingekabikho.

Umzekelo, kwi ingqiqo magama Dal of "kuziqhekeza" yenye zalo - ". Ayaluvumela" Kufanelekile kakhulu imo isalamane entsha, ekubeni indima yayo ngaphezu sensitive, xa kuthelekiswa namanye amalungu entsapho.

enye inguqulo

Kukho olunye uhlobo lwe ntoni-mthetho - nguye lowo "kuzala". Oko kukuthi, lo mfazi, akazange eze nje evela kwenye ilali kunye nosapho, kwaye sele inamava ethile uze uxoxe igama elitsha. Ulindele ukuba ilungu losapho elitsha, yaye ke ngoko kuya kuba ukuzala. Ukuxhasa olu guqulelo yi lizwi esifanelekileyo luxhaphakile: ". Intombi-onesisa onesisa"

umzabalazo ezazingasombululeki?

Ukuba kukho ungquzulwano phakathi kumama-nonyana nomfazi, oko nje ngenxa yomona lo mfazi nobudenge. Umama wam akafuni ukubeka up kunye nendima yesibini kubomi umntwana wakhe omdala kwaye exasperates intombazana eselula: ningekalungi, ngoko uthi, umlinganiswa embi, kunye namazwi ezifanayo.

Umfazi lowo uhlala uninazala kwisakhiwo efanayo, kufuneka aqulunqe isicwangciso ethile ukuya unina umyeni wakhe. Kucacile ukuba isalamane omtsha asilutshaba kuye, kunye nezalamane kunye nabahlobo zabantu ukuba unyana wakhe. Oko ku-mthetho wazala kuye, wamvusa waza wabethelela ezo mpawu kuye kuba wayemthanda yaye bexabisa umfazi wakhe. Ngoko ke yintoni awayenzayo unina lomyeni ukuba umthande? Kufuneka sizame ukufumana umfowunelwa kunye naye, kuthukwa macala kunye nokuxhatshazwa ayamkelekanga. Oku kuya kukhokelela kuphela ukufa lentsapho oselula.

Indlela ukuba baziphathe

Ubulumko - ulwazi. Ngoxa umtshakazi, intombazana, kungakuhle ukuba ukubuza obonelela nezalamane zabo ezintsha, zama ukufumana phandle i yokuzalwa, imihla ebalulekileyo, izinto azithandayo. Emva koko uya umthande unina umyeni, ukuba kamva iya kubabiza i "intombi entle mthetho," yaye kuya kuthathwa njenge intombi. Noko ke, lo mthetho, ukuba ube mnandi ukuba uninazala, ukuba balihloniphe nozuko, musa ukulibala emva komtshato.

Yintoni amanyathelo ukuthatha intombazana ngubani oza ukujoyina i intsapho entsha? Ungaqala amancinci: min'emnandi yokuzalwa, bathi: "ukhangela okulungileyo", "Ndingayifumana iresiphi lwe lettuce yakho emangalisayo?"; Ke intliziyo umkhenkce nomkhe- unina umyeni wakhe. Hayi kude izipho, osuka siyavuyisana umolokazana noninazala, izincomo. umyeni oselula wayeza konwaba xa indlu kuya kubakho uxolo nemvisiswano. Yintoni uhlala ukuba ibe ngumkakhe nokuthantamisa kwaye enothando?