Imigaqo zonxibelelwano kunye nabazali. Inkcubeko yonxibelelwano kunye nokuziphatha

Ubudlelwane abadala kunye nesizukulwana esitsha wambi wongezelela kakhulu buhlungu kwaye kube nzima. Ubunzulu kunye neenkcukacha iingxaki ochazwe ngaphezulu Ivan Turgenev kwinoveli odumileyo 'Ooyise and Sons. " Ukungaqondi kunye nengqumbo, imbono ezahlukeneyo izinto kunye nokungakwazi ukuba ndiyilahle - nento abajongene nazo iintsapho ezininzi zokukhulisa abantwana. Nangona ukuntsonkotha meko, ukusungula abafowunelwa abantu bomthonyama sisoloko. Eyona nto ibalulekileyo - ukuba ndamvuselela kakhulu ukuzama uqhoboshele ukuba unobangela ebalulekileyo zesixa amandla.

Basic amaxesha "yomkhaya"

Imigaqo zonxibelelwano kunye nabazali babantwana babe ngenye indlela. A lot kuxhomekeke yobudala yomntwana, iimpawu bobuntu bakhe kunye nesimbo kwemfundo, ebanjwe yi abadala. Zengqondo ukwahlula sigaba ebalulekileyo ezine ukuyilwa ubuhlobo:

• Ukuxhomekeka (ukususela ekuzalweni ukuya kwiminyaka-11). Kule minyaka, akukho ngokuqhelekileyo akukho iingxaki ezinzulu. Ukuba abadala ndiyamthanda umntwana, uyonwaba ukuchitha ixesha kunye nomama notata, uyakuthanda ukubaxelela iindaba zabo.
• Ngxabano (iminyaka 12-20). Ukuziva yindlalifa abadala kuzo zonke iinzame kuyaphikisana uyise nonina, efuna inkululeko yabo.
• Ukuzimela (iminyaka 21-40). Kuyabonakala kule nkqubo yokukhula, efikelela incopho ngobudala phakathi.
• Nelinye. Umntu omdala kwakhona ukuthuthela eduze abazali babo, bazi ixabiso kulo mabophe.

Yeyona isigaba sokugqibela iingxaki zengqondo yonxibelelwano phakathi kwezizukulwana shwaka. Unyana okanye intombi, nabantwana babo elivisayo, linyamezeleni sikweni isimo sabo. Ngoko ke kuba uthembekile ngakumbi abazali babo.

Izimbo zonxibelelwano entsatsheni

Baya kuchaphazela ngqo umntwana ubudlelwane bakhe ngabazali bakhe:

1. Ngegqudu. Oku kubandakanya ngqongqo ulawulo kunye namaphulo ingcinezelo nosana. Yena okanye engena yena, okanye bakreqile isizukulwana abadala.
2. Ekhululekile-zibhuqe. Le unxibelelwano kumgaqo zibhuqe. Unyana okanye intombi ayisekho Babengabalelani ngokoluvo yabazali.
3. Giperopekayuschy. A Oku kuxhomekeke ekubeni umntwana ekhula yokuzingca. Yena rhoqo ufune icebo umntu omdala, uzixhome ngeengxaki zabo.
4. Ukuqhela. Isizukulwana esidala akanamdla ubomi junior. Abantwana baba ongenandaba abasemzini. Unxibelelwano hlobo, akukho.
5. Democratic. ubudlelwane isakhiwo eyiyo entsatsheni, apho into evelele ithuba ukusilela.

IziTayile zonxibelelwano kunye nabazali xa amatakane beziyakulifuna ngokwesiseko iindlela ngasentla. Xa kunjalo, oku kuxhomekeke isizukulwana nangaphezulu: yintoni isimbo ubudlelwane baya kumisa kwi kwiimvuthuluka zabantwana kwangethuba uvune iziqhamo ezi kwixa elizayo.

onobunye

Wonke umntu ufuna ukuba oko, kodwa hayi bonke isicelo kunzima ngokwaneleyo. Amaxesha amaninzi, omabini amacala - nabazali kunye nabantwana - icala ngalinye nezinye intransigence kunye nenkcaso. Liphoseni yonke imikhosi kwaphikisayo, ukuba ningaqondi; kanye ke ame engeyomfuneko "iingalo uhlanga", le ngxaki iya kusonjululwa ngokwalo. ixesha ezibalulekileyo wabanjwa kwaye wenze linyathelo phambili: kwanokuba ulwalamano wasisebenzisa yayiyiminyaka engcono, bangasoloko ibe kufutshane ezifanelekileyo. Xa intliziyo, zombini izizukulwana bazama ukufumana izinto avumelana ngazo; usibeka kwinqanaba yemfuza.

usapho Happy - yinto umdla eqhelekileyo ukugcina unxibelelwano efudumeleyo, okwenyaniso, ukhululekile, kwaye olusebenzayo phakathi ngezizukulwana. Oku, ngasendleleni, isekelwe kwimigaqo ezibalulekileyo ezine:

• Ukuqonda iimvakalelo kunye nentsusa omnye komnye.
• Ukuhlonipha.
• Ulwamkelo Mutual - ngaphandle ugxekwa nomnqweno ukutshintsha into umntu omthandayo.
• Uxanduva kuba izenzo kunye namagama.

Ngokulandela le mithetho elula, ngokutsho bengqondo, ungenza usapho lwakho ungumzekelo omhle ngokwenene.

Unxibelelwano kwentsha nabazali

Idla ngokuba ixesha kakhulu. Isizathu siyifumana xa uqeqeshelwa ukuba ngumntu indlalifa: yena uziva ngathi umntu omdala, ezama ukubonakalisa ukuzimela kwabo. Abazali badla musa ukuba pipsqueak zabo ezincinane ezikhulayo nokuqhubeka zilawule izimvo zabo, izikhundla kunye nezigqibo lakubathwesa, iliso inzala kuzo zonke izenzo zayo iinzame. Indoda okanye umfazi kufuneka asebenzise ubuchule, kufuneka baqonde ukuba uMama noTata wabathanda, bazama ukuba sizikhusele kakhulu iingxaki zobomi kunye neziphoso, ngoko aziphathe ngokufanelekileyo. Imigaqo zonxibelelwano kunye nabazali kweli xesha kufuneka lusekelwe ekuthobeleni, kodwa kungenzeka ukuba baxoxe meko, ukwabelana izimvo kunye neenzame eziqhelekileyo ukuza isigqibo esichanekileyo.

Umthetho eziphambili - uthi konke. Kulo mzekelo, zama ukuqinisekisa ukuba amazwi akho kunye nezenzo. Yathembisa ukubuyela ekhaya ngokukhawuleza kwi 22,00 - wopha impumlo, kodwa kuza. Kungenjalo, ukulahlekelwa ithemba abadala. Nyaniseka isizukulwana abadala, musa ukukufihla kwaye musa ukuqhathwa: ukuba onamava kakhulu ngakumbi, bakwazi ukunika iingcebiso elungileyo, nto leyo kwixesha elizayo uya kuthi enkosi kuwe kuphela. Abantwana kufuneka bahlonele abazali babo - ingakumbi kweli phakade.

Izindululo abantwana abadala

Ukuba iingxaki inguqu ngokuqhelekileyo kuvela ukungaqondi, ubudala amakhulu izizathu isenokuba ukungabi namdla omnye komnye, ukunqongophala banal ixesha, umahluko izimvo ngokwesimo kunye nezenzo zabantu. Ngoko ke, abantwana abadala kufuneka akwazi ukuthetha nabazali babo, ukuze kufikelelwe ngokuvumelana ayinqwenelayo ubuhlobo:

1. Cinga uyise nonina njengoko - ngaphandle ukuba nolindeloolukhulu. Ukuba bangabantu nje abaqhelekileyo babe nobubi.
2. Funda ukuphulaphula. Nokuba uthe kuyithiya le manqaku, nazo ngenkalipho ngokubalisa-ngqangi elandelayo. umama wakho crazy ngaye, ngoko ukubonisa unyamezelwano: akukho mntu owaziyo ukuba nibheke ebudaleni bakho.
3. Yithi "ulwimi olufanayo". Oko kukuthi, zama uzibeke kwindawo yabo kwimeko elinikiweyo.
4. Yazi ukuba abazali kufuneka ukuqhagamshelana nawe.

Xa ubona ukuba impi engaphephekiyo, uyekelwe. Nina sele sisilumko ngokwaneleyo ukuya kweli iqhinga kancinane: ndivumelana iimbono isizukulwana abadala, bona ngokwabo benze ngendlela yabo. Qhubeka ukuhlonipha uyihlo nonyoko; banikela ubomi kuwe, owabanyusayo - ngenxa yokuba kufuneka ukuba ukuthanda ukuzinyamezela zonke sivumelane nazo cwaka.

ukuhloniphana

Malunga kwathiwa lukhulu. Ngoku makhe Masiqonde ngokweenkcukacha ukuba umongo walo. Iingcali zengqondo state: ukuhlonipha - oku intsika engundoqo, inkxaso, isiseko apho ukwakha ubuhlobo bakho nabazali bakho. Iimpawu unxibelelwano phakathi kwabantu abakubudala ezahlukeneyo bohluke kuzo: abantu abaselula siyathanda ukuxoxa fashion imikhwa, izixhobo ezithandwayo, iiklabhu ebusuku, abantu abadala - kwezopolitiko nonqulo, amaxabiso ukwenzela iimveliso kunye nesifo lobunikazi. Amaxesha amaninzi asifuni ukuba ukuva ngale meko zoqoqosho ezinzima kweli lizwe, sijongene nayo yonke imihla, ngoko ngexesha lakhe lolaleliso, ezama ukuzikhulula intloko yakhe iingcinga cheerless. Kodwa ukuba uyise unqwenela ukuxoxa kwamaxabiso, nokugcina incoko. Khumbula ukuba umntwana wafundisa njani ukuba ukukhwela ibhayisikile okanye ukuloba - ngoku lithuba lakho ukuba ukukholisa upopu.

Imigaqo zonxibelelwano kunye nabazali nazo ukuvela kwakho xa badala inifundisa, umonde - xa ugxekwa, equanimity - ukuba nezimvo iphambene. Yiba achubekile nembeko, amazwi filter, musani ukugweba ngokungqongqo kwaye aziphathe yokuzenzisa - umgangatho wonxibelelwano ebaluleke kakhulu kwi ingxoxo kunye nabantu bomthonyama.

uthando

Maxa wambi ke esisiseko kakhulu phakathi bhuqe nezinye iimvakalelo kunye ukushukumisa. Musa bazisunduze abazali ukuzithemba ukuba uyabathanda. Ndikholelwe, kunzima kakhulu ukuba baqonde ukuba usana lwabo ukhule yaye akusekho mfuneko uncedo. Yenza banenkolelo ezifuna inkxaso yabo ngokwenene: nentombi abonisane nomama malunga unonophelo abazukulwana okanye ukupheka ukutya entsha, unyana ka ilungelo lokubhena uyise ukuba babelwe nomfazi wakhe wabaleka engxakini emsebenzini. incoko Sweet friendly kwimeko ikhaya ekhululekile uzakuva isizukulwana omdala uthando lwakho nothando olunzulu.

Imigaqo zonxibelelwano kunye nabazali babantwana zezilwanya ubomi. Ke, kwazi oku, kuze emva kwexesha ukuthabatha inyathelo lokuqala. Nokuba uyise oyingqwangangqwili, zama ukumxolela. Mhlawumbi upopu sele kudala loo mizi, kodwa cwaka ngenxa yekratshi. Thetha naye, ukuncomana, baxelele ukuba uyabathanda. Kakade ke, ukuxolela umoni kunzima, kodwa ukubaluleka itrayi. Kukuyeka ingqumbo abantwana, uya kuvakalelwa yesandi ekubeni kunye noxolo lwengqondo.

Tips for abazali

Ndingathanda ukuba ndibhenele zombini isizukulwana abadala. Ngamanye amaxesha, kwanaxa abanamava kwaye ekrelekrele, ngenxa ukunganyamezelani, ikratshi okanye namabhongo ukuba avume iziphoso ezinesiqalelo ukuba besaphula zonke unyana okanye intombi ukuzama ukwakha unxibelelwano. Ukuze siphephe le meko ezimbi, iisayikholojisti ukunika iingcebiso kulandelayo:

• Musa ukoyika ukutshintsha isimo sengqondo umntwana, ugxininise kubungakanani yokukhula kwakhe phezulu. Khumbula ngokwam ukuba umfana: amathuba na wacinga waza wenza into efanayo.
• Yamkele into yokuba indlalifa sele uqole ezizimeleyo. Ukwakha ubudlelwane ngokulinganayo.
• Misa esweni uligxeke. Nika umntwana wakho inkululeko kungasathethwa ukwenza izigqibo, kuba ingongoma yakhe imbono. Musa ukoyika, ukuze iphutha - oku nokuba luncedo kumaxesha ngamaxesha.
• Yiba nobubele kwaye nobubele. Khumbula intlanganiso esikolweni kunye notitshala nonxibelelwano kunye nabazali. Ngoko, ingxoxo yakho ibukeka ezomileyo kunye olusesikweni, ukuba anithanga ukubonisa iimvakalelo ezishushu.

Nceda, ukuba ucelwa. Kodwa nayiphi na imeko, musa enyuka umphefumlo, ukuba icebiso ayixoxwanga kuwe. ukwanga nje umntwana uwampampathe naye phezu kwentloko ngokomntwana; ntonje kubonisa iimvakalelo kubaluleke ngakumbi kunayo nayiphi amagama.

Xa ubuhlobo lusekiwe

Indlela ukuqonda oko imithetho lonxibelelwano kunye nabazali bazisa umphumo oyifunayo? Lixabisekile ilula kakhulu. Omhle "bell" iya kuba yile ilandelayo:

1. Umama okanye utata wena ukubacaphukisa. Nabo, kakhulu, ninoyolo ukukubona ningabi ukungaphatheki yababini.
2. Senziwe self-ukuzithemba nakuba ukuxhumana.
3. Unako isifuba, ukuba athethe ngokulinganayo, njengomhlobo.
4. Izikhalazo undilibele, endaweni uthando lwakho kufudumeze umphefumlo.
5. Umnqweno ukuphikisana nongquzulwano shwaka. Uziva ukuvumelana kunye nokuqondana.

Inkcubeko yonxibelelwano kunye zokuziphatha - a oonobumba elula. Kuyenzeka ukuba ukufunda: uhlale phantsi kwaye ukujongana nehlabathi yabo ngaphakathi, yisa umyalelo wakho uwalungise zonke ezishelfini eziyimfuneko. Ukuqala kulo naliphi na kunjalo, kufuneka wena, uze ufake isizukulwana abadala. Le ndlela ungaphinda-ukufundisa unina yabo kunye noyise. Bathi ukuba abazali musa ukukhetha. Kodwa ngubani owaziyo enoba oku ngokwenene. Noko ke, cela isingqisho ilungelo ulwalamano lwakho ulipeyinte nabo imibala ezintsha ungakwazi ngokuchanekileyo.