Esi sibini - intsapho, ekufuneka ibe nenqaba abantwana nabo ngokwabo

uluntu lwale mihla budlulile kuluntu kwakudala. Kangangoko sifuna ukubonisa i ngamanye aze alungelelaniselwe ebomini kweli hlabathi, thina aba ke abantu abo uhambisa i enye iimvakalelo, uloyiko, amava, kwaye ukukhanya. Umahluko kuphela lwangaphandle kwaye uthe, ezazi ngokhona endaba zenzululwazi. Kodwa enyanisweni thina bantu abangekaphuhli, owazingela ndlovu bafike iipasile.

Abaninzi benu uya kukugqala umsebenzi wam ukuphikisa lo mbono, ecinga ngokwabo ukuba nengqiqo kakhulu ngakumbi. Kodwa ulaqaza, ukutshintsha kuphela "umfanekiso". Siyaqhubeka "ukucatshulwa omkhulu," umsebenzi wemihla ngemihla lokutyelela. Kuba "isikhumba", nto leyo kubekwa phezu, siye ezivenkileni, sebenzisa umpu endaweni ngentshuntshe, kunye nokutya sifudumele phezulu ngomlilo. Akukho ukubaleka, abantwana nokuqala iintsapho. Kakade ke, umntu abangekaphuhli kukho nantsingiselo kwingcingane zomtshato, nangona kunjalo, ukuba sele kakuhle imfuneko wokufuna kwaye sigcine isibini. Ngaphandle ukufana kulapha ngentla, siye sibe ngokubukekayo kakhulu, kodwa ngenxa yokuba iziko lomtshato kufuneka akhuselwe kwaye ziphuculwe. Kutheni abantu abaninzi kangaka silibale ngayo, batshabalalisa ubomi bakhe osapho kunye nakwabo basenyongweni?

Ngoobani amaqabane?

Esi sibini - indoda nomfazi, oko kukuthi, abantu abatshatileyo. A umahluko omkhulu nanjengoko kubiza aba bantu abanayo, ngaphandle ukuba i "umfazi" - igama esesikweni ngakumbi, kodwa "indoda", "umfazi" - zasekhaya. Kwinqanaba ichaze, ukuba indoda nomfazi abaye ngokusemthethweni ulwalamano lwabo ngokubhalisa nabo kwi-ofisi yobhaliso. Noko ke, indoda, (umyeni, inkosikazi) umfazi, emva kweminyaka emininzi yomtshato, khumbula kuphela malunga icala lomthetho ulwalamano lwabo lomtshato. Kwaye ukuba lusizi. Emva kokuba isibini - nto nje abantu abo isiqwenga bephepha iimfanelo ezihamba kunye namalungelo kweemfanelo. Oku ikakhulu a umfelandawonye evakalala, apho kungene abantu abanothando.

Kutheni imitshato isilela? Kubonakala ukuba izizathu kulala phezu kwamanzi, kunye nentsapho nganye, ejonge kuwo, awangawangise isandla sakhe, athi ukuba sele uyayazi loo nto. Noko ke, oku akuthethi baloko yaye akufanelekanga ukuba kubangele ukuba ngokutsha isimo sabo. Sicebisa ukuba ifundwe ngenyameko ngakumbi, ukuze enze iimpazamo ukuba ziphindwa kwizizukulwana ngezizukulwana abantu.

ngokungaqondi

Kubonakala ngathi sizathu kunokuba banal nento elisoloko lingahoywanga. Couples uyibone ngayinye nezinye ziye nayiphi neengxaki. Ngokufuthi bangaboni ukuba - ngokupheleleyo Abantu ezahlukeneyo baneembono engahambelaniyo ubomi kunye nezicwangciso zexesha elizayo. Ibinzana elithi "izichasi zitsala" ayisebenzi kuzo zonke iimeko. Kaloku, xa amaqabane kufuneka izinto ezahlukeneyo, ukuzonwabisa, umsebenzi ekugqibeleni. Ke kusoloko kukho into ukuthetha ngayo yaye sabelane omnye olukhethileyo. Ukuba elinye iqabane kakhulu ngokweemvakalelo, kwaye enye - ezolile, oko kuya kunceda ukusombulula iingxabano ezininzi. Ke ukuba, umzekelo, izicwangciso zakhe kuba ngumama ngoko nangoko emva komtshato, kodwa akazange acinge kuyimfuneko ukuba abantwana de bafike inyathelo ephezulu leri omsebenzi, amathuba kwisibini kuya kuba nzima ukuhlala. Lo nje omnye umzekelo encinane yintoni umtshato lungangaphumeleli, kwaye eneneni iimeko ezinjalo nje musa ukubala.

kuxoxa ngemiba

Kubalulekile ukuya ngenyameko ukudaleka usapho kunye nokukhetha iqabane, ukuba batshate besebancinane, uze ujonge omnye nomnye. Ukuba ukhetho sele yenziwe, zama ukuxoxa zonke ingxabano baze bafumane kwizibhambathiso, oko kufuneka uphume, ukuba uyazixabisa omnye olukhethileyo. Musa ukulibala ukuba ukuthetha nje nokwabelana ngamava abo, kuba ukuswela ukuqonda kudla yakha Ukungavumi banal ukuba baxoxe ngokubanzi. Musa ukulibala ukuba umfazi - elandelayo kwabanye abantu ngamnye. Bona njalo weva.

Abantwana amaqabane, amaqabane nabantwana

Abanye abantu bakholelwa ukuba umtshato njengezingaphelelanga ukuba esi sibini ukuba babe nabantwana. Noko ke, kwezinye iimeko, ukuba abantwana umonakalo kuphela ubudlelwane phakathi kwamaqabane. Ngokomzekelo, omnye iqabane kusenokuba olungalungiselelwanga ngokwasengqondweni ukuba ukuzalwa komntwana nje. Times xa imitshato ezenziweyo kwiminyaka eyi-18, kunye 20 wayenabantwana, okanye uluntu waqalisa ukujonga ebuJudeni, uhambe. Kwihlabathi lanamhlanje, wonke umntu uthatha isigqibo kulwazi kakhulu. Enye ingxaki kungaba, kwaye zemali yentlalo-ntle. Ukukhulisa umntwana lubiza kakhulu, usapho kakuhle-ntle njani 'ukutya', njengoko besithi, ubomi. Family (umyeni, inkosikazi) kufuneka zilungele abantwana zombini ngokuziphatha ngokwasezimalini. Kungenjalo, amahlakani abakwazi ukumelana unogumbe bawa phezu iingxaki zabo. Noko ke, ukungavumelani ungenza kuphela abantwana amaqabane. Amaqabane nabantwana kudala iingxabano entsatsheni, ngokuba kunye nabameli abanyuliweyo abantwana bakho kwakhona kubalulekile ukufumana ulwimi olufanayo.

Family - kukho inkoloseko

Oonobangela ezifana ukukrexeza okanye ukungabikho ezahlukeneyo ebomini ngokwesondo, siye kuqwalaselwa, njengoko ezi ngxaki phezu kwamanzi, yaye nazi yonke kuxhomekeke kukhetho lwakho ngqo, hayi evela kwi imeko yangoku. Xa kunjalo, kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuba umfazi - kwabazalelwe kwabanye abantu ngamnye kufuneka sihlale ukhuthazo nenkxaso. Ukuba nangasiphi na isizathu uvakalelwa imfuneko ukuqwalasela ngokwenene ukuba okanye hayi ukugcina ulwalamano olunjalo.